Integrating Mind and Body for Long Lasting Relationships

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"Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it..."
Brené Brown

At various points in life, it’s not unusual to feel stuck. Caught in a pattern that is causing you pain, or having negative impacts on other areas of your life. Perhaps you’re dealing with difficult emotions, or experiencing feelings of anxiety or depression, or having to face a difficult time in your life due to major change or loss. It’s at times like these that we can struggle to see a way past the difficulties we’re facing, and it takes the support of an experienced third party to help you navigate your way to a better place. My role, as a registered psychotherapist, is to provide you with a safe space and the support you need to help you do exactly that.

Your happiness is not determined by what happens to you, everyone experiences ups and downs in life, however you have a choice in how you respond to those events. By learning how to change your perspective and take an empowered and constructive response, no matter how difficult the situation, you are building a solid foundation for the rest of your life.

My clients are my partners in the healing process. Together, we work to help you understand what you are experiencing, see beliefs or patterns of behaviour that you may not be aware of, but may be causing you harm. We’ll work together to build strategies that you can take into your daily life, and that will help you live your life fully.

Working collaboratively with you, drawing on my skills and experience, I’ll help you to challenge the patterns of behaviour and limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck, and find a new more constructive way to move forward.

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“Every relationship is a cross cultural experience. There are two valid perceptions and realities which make a difference.”
John Gottman

Every relationship goes through ups and downs, and conflict is a natural part of being in a couple. Sometimes conflict can become overwhelming, or issues within the relationship can seem too difficult to resolve, and this is when couples therapy, or marriage counselling can help. Couples can experience a wide range of issues including problems with intimacy, communication, sexuality, or parenting. Couples can have conflict around family goals or can simply reach a point where they feel they have changed and have moved apart.

When I work with couples, my focus is on your relationship, with you as the subject matter expert. As a therapist, I am a guide and facilitator, giving you tools and a structure within which you can safely explore and understand the dynamics at play. I help identify your individual strengths so you can draw on them to explore the difficulties you are facing as a couple, and help you find constructive ways to navigate your issues.

Whether you ultimately decide to stay together, or agree to separate, relationship counselling can help you identify and avoid repeating unhelpful patterns of behaviour, contributing to better relationships in the future.

My approach is derived from a combination of two methodologies: The Gottman Method and Stan Tatkin’s Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). The Gottman Method, by globally recognised experts Drs. John and Julie Gottman, uses various tools to build better relationships and manage conflict. It focuses on helping couples learn to be better friends and to support each other, while more effectively navigating conflict, which is a natural part of any relationship.

Stan Takin’s PACT uses cutting edge techniques, incorporating neuroscience, biology and theories of attachment to help couples work through real issues in their relationship in a safe and guided environment.

The Gottmans

More about Drs. John & Julie Gottman and the Gottman Institute... More Info

Dr. Stan Takin

More on Dr. Stan Takin's approach to Couple Therapy - PACT®... More Info

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I have a great deal of experience leading groups with therapeutic and educational workshops, focusing on a range of issues from domestic violence, to wellbeing, to using mindfulness to manage stress. I have worked with charities, NGOs and other organisations, to develop tailored programs to meet their specific needs and goals. My general approach to group work uses specifics tools and activities designed to raise insight and self-awareness about the issue in focus, often combined with mindfulness and movement work, depending on the needs of the group.

If you would like to talk to me about running a group session or workshop in your organisation, please contact me. We can discuss your organisation’s goals and areas of focus, and how I can develop a program to meet your needs.